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Post by nocturnaliridescence on Dec 17, 2018 12:44:59 GMT -6
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Post by Thomas Eversole on Dec 18, 2018 8:12:40 GMT -6
This would be a 3. I only ended up doing 1 handful of cookies/treats last night because I had a glass of Egg Nog. (non-alcoholic of course) Comparing sugar content, that stuff might as well be liquid cookies. Heh. XD
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Post by nocturnaliridescence on Dec 18, 2018 10:49:06 GMT -6
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Post by _ on Dec 18, 2018 16:43:10 GMT -6
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Post by _ on Dec 18, 2018 21:46:28 GMT -6
xDeathstarx comin' in hot tonight as i try to stay my stray
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Post by nocturnaliridescence on Dec 19, 2018 11:20:30 GMT -6
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Post by Deleted on Dec 20, 2018 5:24:16 GMT -6
Fell. I will fight harder next time!
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Post by nocturnaliridescence on Dec 20, 2018 11:53:30 GMT -6
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Post by Deleted on Dec 20, 2018 20:39:02 GMT -6
nocturnaliridescenceHang in there. Rest in Christ and the strength He gives you to resist temptation and overcome sin. He already paid the price.
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Post by _ on Dec 20, 2018 21:13:09 GMT -6
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Post by Thomas Eversole on Dec 21, 2018 10:53:31 GMT -6
You gents are in my prayers! My wife was in the kitchen last night, baking more nums. She even made some Christmas Crack. (LOL no, its not crack the drug, but like a toffee-saltine type thing that's just friggin' delicious) I've adhered to my goal though. Wasn't really in the mood for sweets last night, but I still had a few pieces of "crack".
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Post by nocturnaliridescence on Dec 21, 2018 11:31:07 GMT -6
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Post by _ on Dec 27, 2018 19:18:16 GMT -6
Respectfully, what is the point of this thread? Posting successes and failures when we feel like it and platitudes about not giving up is a thin rendering of accountability imo.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 27, 2018 21:07:03 GMT -6
That's a good point. My original intention was to continue posting here each and every day, but it is clear I have slipped from that. I have not fallen since my last post here which indicated that.
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Post by Thomas Eversole on Dec 27, 2018 21:18:39 GMT -6
Respectfully, what is the point of this thread? Posting successes and failures when we feel like it and platitudes about not giving up is a thin rendering of accountability imo. I see your point. I would say that it is truly impossible to be accountable to others... Unless they figured out the mind reading part. Personal accountability is what it's really all about. If a person has a lot of plants they take care of, I think we can all agree the plants don't actually do anything to make someone tend to them... But the person instills upon themselves, meaning and responsibility, because of the plants.
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Post by nocturnaliridescence on Dec 27, 2018 21:41:36 GMT -6
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Post by _ on Dec 27, 2018 22:44:15 GMT -6
I would say that it is truly impossible to be accountable to others... Unless they figured out the mind reading part. Yes. But overall we (not TBL specifically, just people) do a shitty job of extending ourselves towards others for the sake of accountability, at least of a quality that requires a significant sacrifice of time or a thoughtful strategy. To liken "accountability" to "encouragement" (both terms that we pretty much get but could be further define), so much of the accountability I've experienced in my life is very surface level and reactive and platitudinous, like encouraging someone to 'not give up, youll get it next time' after they tell you they got a terrible end-of-year performance review at work..sure that's fine if you just kinda know that person or youre too extremely/unexpectedly busy to respond more., but if that person is dear to you, much deeper, personalized encouragement could have been provided. I posed the question about the point of the thread because I don't think it was intended to be a forum for comprehensive accountability (which is fine and does not take away from the merit it has for the use it purposes) and so I did not want to criticize it as something it did not strive to be.
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Post by nocturnaliridescence on Dec 28, 2018 11:25:35 GMT -6
To liken "accountability" to "encouragement" (both terms that we pretty much get but could be further define), so much of the accountability I've experienced in my life is very surface level and reactive and platitudinous, like encouraging someone to 'not give up, youll get it next time' after they tell you they got a terrible end-of-year performance review at work..sure that's fine if you just kinda know that person or youre too extremely/unexpectedly busy to respond more., but if that person is dear to you, much deeper, personalized encouragement could have been provided. That's a fair observation, but... what do you propose in its place?
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Post by Thomas Eversole on Dec 29, 2018 11:29:03 GMT -6
But overall we (not TBL specifically, just people) do a shitty job of extending ourselves towards others for the sake of accountability, at least of a quality that requires a significant sacrifice of time or a thoughtful strategy. I agree.... and yes, this thread has acted more as an encouragement thread than a true accountability machine.... but I think it can still work, if you work it. (much like any coping skills) I think in regards to SEVERE addictions or struggles, this accountability thread will seem like putting a bandaid on a severed limb. Against mild struggles (lets face it, my cookie/baked treats scenario I mentioned isn't too "hard") I think it works pretty well. A lot of these goodies are still in Christmas tins and sealed bags in my dining room. My impulsiveness wants to grab a handful each time I walk by them, but then I remember this thread and don't want to have to reply "I failed" so, accountability is had. Speaking of "it works if you work it", its interesting how something (for accountability purposes) will work for someone and not someone else.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 26, 2019 23:55:38 GMT -6
I think this thread should get a bump to remind everyone of its existence.
So far I have not fallen again, and for that I am grateful.
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Post by Thomas Eversole on Jan 27, 2019 8:59:26 GMT -6
Glad to hear it bro.
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Post by Borndead on Mar 21, 2019 11:42:53 GMT -6
4th day, of no porn and masturbation
posting here because I want to go through with this, THIS time...prayers are always appreciated
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Post by _ on Mar 21, 2019 21:32:49 GMT -6
PM me (or post here i dont care) if you want to talk about possible ways in which we might want to ... "keep each other accountable"
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Post by Borndead on Mar 25, 2019 11:29:49 GMT -6
A week done, praise to God. definitely not easy, but it´s going well (for now)
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Post by _ on Mar 28, 2019 22:18:41 GMT -6
If you, TBL, could please pray and reflect on if and how you might be able and willing to help me overcome my very destructive sex addiction, please take some time before the Lord to do so and let me know. You guys are my best bet for support. Thanks.
Edit: I apologize for the brevity and bluntness. It sounds a selfish request to me and I think it simply is that, unfortunately. Of course I want to support you guys as well. It's just that -- I really need help in these dark days. Thank you.
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Post by Borndead on Mar 30, 2019 8:30:19 GMT -6
If I survive today, it't gonna be 2 weeks with no porn and masturbation. It's awfully hard almost stumbled a lot of times. It's more than a huge win, but still a loooooong way is ahead.
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Post by Borndead on Apr 2, 2019 5:15:24 GMT -6
Day 16, yesterday was brutal. I did look at seductive videos and read some stories but didn't masturbate. It doesn't really get easier (maybe it's ti soon to start making conclusions). I need to focus on godly things(i don't really know how). Also, every prayer is more than appreciated
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Post by _ on Apr 11, 2019 21:21:52 GMT -6
If you, TBL, could please pray and reflect on if and how you might be able and willing to help me overcome my very destructive sex addiction, please take some time before the Lord to do so and let me know. You guys are my best bet for support. Thanks. Edit: I apologize for the brevity and bluntness. It sounds a selfish request to me and I think it simply is that, unfortunately. Of course I want to support you guys as well. It's just that -- I really need help in these dark days. Thank you. getyarn.io/yarn-clip/7d85d8d5-7d21-4ddc-abc9-7d9535078a0e
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Post by nocturnaliridescence on Apr 12, 2019 13:57:47 GMT -6
If you, TBL, could please pray and reflect on if and how you might be able and willing to help me overcome my very destructive sex addiction, please take some time before the Lord to do so and let me know. You guys are my best bet for support. Thanks. Edit: I apologize for the brevity and bluntness. It sounds a selfish request to me and I think it simply is that, unfortunately. Of course I want to support you guys as well. It's just that -- I really need help in these dark days. Thank you. getyarn.io/yarn-clip/7d85d8d5-7d21-4ddc-abc9-7d9535078a0eI've already given a bunch of suggestions on things to try since you started talking about this. You never commented on most of them -- did you try all of them?
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Post by _ on Apr 12, 2019 21:27:06 GMT -6
Thanks for your response, bro. I didn't respond to your post in this thread regarding alternative suggestions I had when I expressed a problem with the way accountability seems to work for people (again, not here at TBL, not even Christians in particular). Other than that, I think I replied to your suggestions in other threads, though whose to know since I don't keep it organized where I post about this and my response rate in general is not 100% ha. I copied and pasted a few below that you've posted to me in italics, and I read and am thankful for all posts and time and thought used for my benefit / on my behalf -- I really do.
EDIT: jk i took these out b/c public private stuff
Harsh noise doesn't do the trick, though I love it as an idea. Empathy and encouragement are AWESOME; they are necessary though not sufficient. And I am not saying you need to do more more more so that it is sufficient. I only say that I am struggle with this and I have insufficient power to overcome it by myself.
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